Love Episode 8

Reviewed Love in context of marriage, parent child relationship


Aristotle 3 Types of Friends

  1. Friends of utility, co-workers
  2. Friends of pleasure, sports
  3. Friends of Virtue- outward focused, few in number

These friendships are not bad and can become an occasion of growing in virtue.

Aristotle makes concepts accessible to human mind. St. Jose Maria Escriva, Apostolate of friendship, always reaching out to the other in kindness.

Being kind costs one nothing. Give a smile.  How we behave over time molds who we are.

Ex/ exercise, trains the body, becomes easier to do physical tasks.

Engage in the friendships of location or convenience, or pleasure.

The grace that radiates from us can shield, mantle, umbrella over others.

  1. Spiritual Friendship: Aelred of Rievaulx, relied heavily on Augustine’s Confessions. 1100’s

“Aelred defines human friendship as sacramental, beginning in creation, as God sought to place his own love of society in all of his creatures, linking friends to Christ in this life and culminating in friendship with God in beatitude.”

“ This small treatise, then, is divided into three little books. In the first I explain the nature of friendship and what was its origin and cause. In the second I note its fruit and excellence. In the third I disclose, as far as possible, how and among whom friendship can be kept unbroken to the end.”[1]

When one is hospitable, one might be entertaining angels.

There is room for one more. We can fail by not inviting.

When we are generous, we are mirroring our Lord who cannot be outdone in generosity.

Gives us confidence in being good friends.

Elizabeth Barrett Browning Sonnet

Elizabeth Barrett Browning– 1806-1861

1806- 1861 at Coxhoe Hall, Durham, England, Elizabeth Barrett Browning was a celebrated English poet of the Romantic Movement.

If thou must love me… (Sonnet 14)


If thou must love me, let it be for naught

Except for love’s sake only. Do not say,

“I love her for her smile—her look—her way

Of speaking gently,—for a trick of thought

That falls in well with mine, and certes brought

A sense of pleasant ease on such a day”—

For these things in themselves, Belovèd, may

Be changed, or change for thee—and love,

so wrought,

May be unwrought so. Neither love me for

Thine own dear pity’s wiping my cheeks dry:

A creature might forget to weep, who bore

Thy comfort long, and lose thy love thereby!

But love me for love’s sake, that evermore

Thou mayst love on, through love’s eternity. a brief biography

Our identity is as son and daughter of God. Not sexual orientation, disease, education, or position. These other things can change or be removed.

Utilitarian love is not divine love, born of the Father’s heart.

A more poetic retelling of Augustine’s “Love, then do what you want.”

I English we say, ‘I am Karen’. Be careful what we say after the am.

            [1]Aelred of Rievaulx, translated by Lawrence C. Braceland (Cistercian Publications, Liturgical Press: Collegeville, MN 2010) 54